3 ladies bring in 2016 with women and visions

If you didn’t create a vision board for 2016 I wouldn’t say you’re not on the right track but I will say it’s not too late to map out your dreams and goals for the New Year.

2015 was the rise of the vision boards. It was as if a new movement was created to uplift and inspire dream chasers. From vision board parties, magazine covers and social media posts-everyone was doing it. Seeing everyone create something positive was a great way to start a new year.

This year the movement continues. I had a great opportunity to witness women pump their creative juices and really add some “sass” and “class” to their 2016 vision.  Mackin Project (Tanisha Mackin) and Design Yourself Executive Solutions (Chae Haughton) joined for an amazing Vision Board Social hosted by Jae Christian of WETV’s “Selling it in ATL”, a reality TV show with a group of Atlanta Real Estate agents.

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One of the event planners shared her own success story with her 2015 vision board which was used as a weight loss goal. “We’re both visionaries. So we wanted to get a group of women together who have the same type of vision and just go with it and it turned into something larger than what I thought it was going to be,” said Chae. She added that with the social’s success she visions it being larger next year.

Participant Anoa Changa had goals of networking in Atlanta after moving to the city 2 years ago due to a natural disaster.  “Trying to become more involved in the greater community as well as trying to build more of our family presence so to speak. Events like this are awesome to get out and meet new people,” she said.

Before the participants completed their vison boards the host, Jae Christian, had everyone write on a posted note their fears and negative thoughts that would keep them from completing their goals. As they wrote them down Jae walked around the room and had each of them throw the posted notes away.  She added that it’s important to add affirmations to your visions. “You have to do the work and you have to be confident and motivate yourself for those things to come true,” Jae said.

As Jae mentioned, the vision board doesn’t work for itself. You work for the vision. It’s never too late to write it down and make it plain.

 

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The Renaissance Experience……

I’ve always been amazed by people who had musical talent and the ability to express their thoughts using spoken word. The power of speaking represents the ability to deliver a message to an individual or mass audience that could make them think differently about the subject and empower them.

Experiencing The Renaissance ATL Friday night opened my eyes to see the crafts in others. How beautiful is it that God blesses us with these gifts for his divine purpose. Artists walked on stage giving us their outer appearance but when they spoke I felt connected to who they really are deep inside. It’s amazing seeing people passionate about their talents and using them for God’s glory.

While The Renaissance ATL normally has Christian performances it’s really an event open to Christians and non Christians. I support this. A staff member of the event mentioned his topic in bible study which was how are you shining your light outside of the church. It’s important that we not only worship together but sew our practice, our beliefs, our testimonies and our knowledge of God back into those who need it. In order to spread God’s glory we have to be unselfish. We have to reach out to those who don’t know Him and we can’t do that by keeping it in the Church.

It was impressing watching the artists perform. How do we have so much talent in this world yet it seems like they’re not really “discovered” yet? It’s almost as if there’s not enough room in the “pond” for everyone to be caught.

However, I really enjoyed their feature artists Angelina Sheri (singer, song writer and violinist) and Real Talk Raps (poet). They made me realize that music doesn’t stop on your radio. No, it goes way further than that. And sometimes the best ones are right there in your local community! We have to start supporting them and actually paying attention to their music.

Other artists who came out that I enjoyed included: @I_amvirtuous, @chavisflagg, @brandiboothofficial, @thequeensheba, @jordan.Moreland, and @navellehice.

Overall, my Renaissance ATL experience was AWESOMEEEE!! I can’t wait for the next one on January 8th at the Epic Center in Austell, Ga. I encourage everyone to come out. It took me a while to see what it’s about but I’m glad I finally did.

Follow The Renaissance ATL on Instagram @therenaissanceatl.

(Feature photo taken from @therenaissainceatl)

I got the mic!!

Last Thursday I had the pleasure of hosting a panel discussion (at North Clayton High School) for the second time with an amazing organization, Project Inspire. This organization serves a purpose to enlighten the younger generation (high school students) through community service, panel discussions and empowering events. The best part about this organization is the fact that it’s ran by a group of men-black men at that!! These guys are so incredible, so successful and they all come from different backgrounds.

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North Clayton High School

The organization hand picks men from the community to sit down as panelists and speak with the high school men about their background, what inspires them, how they were in high school, etc. The high school boys get the opportunity to speak to men who are business owners, bankers, educators, realtors-just successful black men in general who worked hard to become who they are.

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Listening to one of the panelists 

 

As I MC’d the discussion it was very intriguing listening to their stories. Just imagine, every story is different but they all had one thing in common-they were inspiring. I was very proud to be apart of something that uplifted our boys and gave them hope for a brighter future. It motivated them to go to college-the first time I hosted for Project Inspire at Charles R. Drew High School I over heard some of the younger boys talking about how they didn’t even plan on attending college mainly because they didn’t know where to start as far as preparation. However, with the presence of these men they received advice and help.

This is what I live for-witnessing growth in our community and documenting it. It truly was amazing serving as their host.

 

Mills gave breast cancer only one chance at testing her

Ernestine "Tina" Mills

Coming close to her 8 year anniversary, breast cancer survivor Ernestine “Tina” Mills recalls being diagnosed on her oldest daughter’s birthday.

“Cancer runs in my family. My mom died of ovarian cancer and my father died of prostate cancer and I had another sister that died-I had two sisters that died of lung cancer and one that died of bone cancer,” Tina said.

Tina mentioned that because she always does her own self- examination the news didn’t catch her too much off guard. “I’m a very Christian person so of course my first thing was to get on my knees and give it to God.” Tina’s doctor suggested that they remove the tumor but to refrain from them having to see her for the second time she requested her breast to be removed. “I only give them one chance. If you’re going to do surgery on me you’re only going to get one chance so you better do it all at once,” she says jokingly.

Tina’s story is different. As a breast cancer survivor she has never taken chemotherapy or radiation.

Would you say your relationship with God grew stronger from that experience?

“My relationship with God has gotten so strong because not only did he delivered me from that but at the time Ciara (her daughter) having the relationship she had with God and speaking to Him and He was speaking to me through her, it just gave me just that much more positivity that you can’t tell me, you can’t make me doubt God because I know too much about Him. He’s done too much for me. And I thank him every day for that. Some people would say, well you still should’ve did this, you still should’ve did that-if my God says I don’t need it, I don’t need it. I’m not gone go against his word. I’m a very Christian person, I’m always in church I’m always doing something but I haven’t always walked with God. So that’s why, like why did I waste all these years not walking with God? Who wouldn’t want to serve a God who could do something like that?”

Tina didn’t have both breasts removed and has a scar on the side she had surgery on. Every year she schedules a mammogram and the breast cancer has not returned.

“This month is breast cancer month, I support whoever I can, however I can, and it’s just an encouraging word. I have a niece that’s about 35 and she was diagnosed with breast cancer probably about 4 or 5 years ago and she was very upset and everything and I told her you know- everybody wants to know well how did you make it through? Me having a relationship with God kept me through it and she didn’t take the whole breast out so she ended up having to have chemo and radiation. Her hair came out and all that stuff. Everybody was like well aunty it didn’t happen to you-it’s your relationship with God because God can do anything but fail. So I know that He keeps me going.”

Tina’s drive came from wanting to see her daughter get married which was scheduled a year after Tina was diagnosed.

When you were diagnosed did you tell your daughter the news on her birthday?

“Yes I did because every time I go to the doctor if they’re not there with me I get 50 phone calls. So when she called me, she said mom what did the doctor say? I said well he says I have breast cancer and I just kept on talking and she just burst out crying.”

Tina kept her faith strong and comforted her daughters, telling them that the God that she serves has a cure.

What led you to go to the doctor before finding out that you were diagnosed?

“I felt a knot, but I kept saying, you know it didn’t feel like a knot. It felt like a bump or a pimple. But the only thing was you couldn’t see it, but you could feel it.”

Tina’s bumps were very small-like pimples and the doctor had to test it for cancer. Very patient for her doctor to have an opening, Tina waited for surgery until her doctor was available.

As a survivor, what do you think has changed after being diagnosed?

“I’ve gotten closer in my walk with God. God and I are, I guess you can say like on a first name basis. And as far as me growing as a person, I think me going through what I went through, I think me going through that it made me more sympathetic to people and closer to people. I get along better with them.”

Tina mentions that while in the hospital she was given a book by a nurse that was written by one of the employee’s and titled “A Mother’s Daughter.” The book helped her have the passion to be a mother to everybody. “My kids are always saying mom you can’t be a mom to everybody but I just feel that motherly love with everybody,” she said.

Tina said that living for her family is what helps her stay strong.

Too Young to Live or Die?

Why is that when you’re in your twenties people always claim that you’re “too young”? Seriously? Too young to live or die? Which one, because the last time I checked another day isn’t promised. Your time could be almost up but you held out on everything that you desired because you were told you’re “too young”.

Too young to know love, too young to live on your own, too young to manage your financials, too young to drive your passion, too young to start your business and the list goes on. It’s like when we’re in our twenties we’re placed on a pause and told to wait until the road is clear. When you feel like your life is on a long yield make your own road. Never wait on your desires, create them.

Now I agree to a certain extent. It’s hard out here. It seems like my friends left and right are struggling for whatever reason but it’s life. My God never told us it would be easy. This life wasn’t made for us to live perfect lives; He will have that ready for us when He returns. But for some reason I just can’t wrap my mind around the thought of waiting. WHAT ARE YOU WAITING FOR? If you have a desire or passion for something start praying over it, start doing your research, start asking God to connect you to people who can help you implement your plan. Just don’t let time pass you by. Think about it, so much can happen in a year and what you said you would do 2 years ago will just be what you said and not what you did if you don’t wake up and start putting your money where your mouth is.

Now let me take a breather. I’m not saying don’t be patient, all I’m saying is DON’T BE STILL. If you have a vision you should be feeding that vision daily. Don’t waste your own time. Don’t wake up one day noticing that you haven’t gone further than the notes you wrote down about your vision. We all have a purpose and today someone sent me something that stated most people won’t dedicate themselves to their purpose in life. I have this crazy idea that our purpose in life should somewhat be our job. You may not get paid for it but guarantee you should be working for it harder than you work for someone else’s dreams. I hope you don’t turn out to be that person that lived so many years but did not dedicate themselves to their purpose.

Encouragement for forgiving yourself from mistakes

Just breathe. Sometimes I feel that we as people beat ourselves up for silly mistakes we’ve made in the past. I get it. Trust me I know. The thoughts of the decision you made really crowds your mind and you start to think less of yourself. When are we going to let it go? When will we learn to control how we view ourselves at our lowest points?

The mistake you made does not define who you are if you choose to learn your lesson and promise yourself to never turn to that decision again, but you have to actually practice this promise. Quite frankly, you should be thanking yourself for that experience and that minor setback. It will help you grow into a better you.

I once made a big mistake. Several actually! But one particular mistake I made in the past could have hurt the ones I loved. I really downgraded myself for the decision I made and you know what, I was very afraid of what others would think of me. I put myself down and thought negative things about me. Do you know that this is actaully bad for your spirit? The mind is very powerful and it is important that you control your thoughts because you are what you think of yourself. Because of that simple mistake I made I was able to be firm with the type of person I wanted to be and promised to never be faced with the same mistake.

It takes time getting over something that you’re disappointed with yourself about. But remember that what you did does not make who you are. If anything it gives you the opportunity to explore personal growth. While forgiving yourself be optimistic and nurture your mind with positive thoughts.

Disappointing others to develop your right mind

Have you ever feared of disappointing someone when you’re trying to do what’s best for you. Well stop. You can never elevate yourself thinking about how others will feel about you. Don’t get me wrong though, you shouldn’t intentionally let people down. You shouldn’t let others down by down-grading who you are. I am speaking on what people expect of you and what people think you owe them. In this life you are going to constantly let others down because people will have such high expectations of you. People will depend on you. However, when it’s time to live for you and put yourself first don’t think about disappointing someone else.

I’m the type of person that likes to get myself involved in so many things and then complain when I don’t get time to myself or time to relax. I feel it’s important to share my helping hand. That’s great and everything but we have to learn how to say no and set our boundaries of how far we stretch ourselves. If you’re giving so much of you out then what’s left for only you? What’s left when it’s time to perfect your craft? Nothing because you have given your all to other areas you have committed yourself to.

I want you to write out everything you give your time to. Try to number it with #1 being what you give the most of your time to. Let’s see how many numbers it takes before you get to yourself. Here’s another thing; when we give ourselves to so many other areas we lose site of who we are. We start molding ourselves to be numb and to be unaware of our feelings, what we enjoy doing, our dislikes and what makes us happy. And if you’ve done it for so long you’ll realize that now you’re lost.

We have to find who we are. We weren’t created in this world to work, eat, sleep and die. We were created to use our gifts to the max and to really shower everyone with who we are and what we can contribute to this place we’re living in. But if you’re constantly dividing yourself into so many areas you won’t have anything left of your gift that you can use to your advantage.

Know who you are. Don’t get stuck living in someone else’s dream because you don’t know your own.